† Fortress of Solitude †


It’s good to talk: Extroverted feeling (Fe)

“I’ve noticed that a lot people without an Fe preference tend to see Fe as having a lot to do with appearances, getting along/fitting in at the expense of yourself, people-pleasing, inability to say things as they are, etc… Certainly it can manifest like that but that’s not at all what Fe is based on. And I think a lot of the confusion about Fe - which seems like it should be easy to understand because it’s so visible, but believe me it can be just as complex as any other function - comes from making too many comparisons between Fe and Fi. I tend to believe that Fe and Te have more in common with each other than Fe and Fi. What Fe and Te have in common is that they’re based on organization of the environment. But while Te focuses on organizing tasks and objectives, Fe is about organizing relationships and social/emotional dynamics. The fact is, sometimes what is best for the group is also best for the individuals in that group. Fe tends to ask the question, “What is the purpose of us coming together like this, and how is what everyone is saying/doing affecting that purpose?” Kind of like how Te considers the goal of a project and how elements of that project fit together to achieve that goal. 

Apart from that, Fe is also about helping people grow beyond their problems, kind of like how Te is about breaking through obstacles to improve your situation. Fi is about growth as well, but in a different way… Fe leads to growth by taking what someone thinks or feels in context with their environment, seeing how the two affect each other, and then either changing the environment or changing how the person interacts with their environment, hopefully in a way that’s empowering. Fe growth happens in the context of the environment, whereas Fi growth seems to happen more in spite of the environment. This gives you guys a very strong and consistent inner “anchor”, but it can also put you at odds with people and things unnecessarily, without much benefit coming from it. In that sense, Fi is very cause-oriented whereas Fe is much more effect-oriented. And this isn’t a bad thing - sometimes I am amazed at how much of an advantage being Fe-dominant gives me compared to people who don’t focus on that kind of thing as much. On the other hand, balancing the benefits of this advantage with staying true to my core is more of a challenge for me (being pulled to the needs of others can be a storm sometimes). 

That doesn’t mean conformity though - fitting in and conforming are two very different things, and it has a lot more to do with the individual than with what their function preference is. One of the best things about being Fe-dominant is that I never really have to “conform” in order to fit in pretty much anywhere I go. I feel at home with everyone because Fe always lets me find common ground. It’s genuine common ground because it comes from something that’s true about me, and also true about the other person. Sometimes this common ground is minor, and basically just leads to small talk… other times it’s more significant and leads to a friendship. It feels just as natural for me to fit in with a group of artists as it does to fit in with a group of scientists, because in both cases the fitting in is based on something real. The artists and the scientists each see different aspects of me (because that’s what I show them more of in order to relate), but they’re still both seeing the real me. I hate not being true to myself as much as any other type, I just approach it in a different way.”

Souce: http://www.enfpforum.com/Home/tabid/55/aff/8/aft/1661/afv/topic/Default.aspx

That’s a super cool take on Fe and Fi!

ISFJ and work stress


The Protector is the most likely to become excessively worried. Their highest skills come from preventing problems, and to do that one must think about what might go wrong and prevent it. But too great an overload can trigger excessive worry. Being forced to face too many new experiences can be daunting to the Protector and cause them to talk about potential catastrophes. They may experience a loss of control and even become impulsive while trying to fix all that they see going wrong. When others see them in this state, it is important to give them help and to lower their expectations about always being able to prevent every problem. Until they release some of their need for control, they will experience high stress. Rest, good nutrition, and treating themselves to peace and quiet will go a long way towards healing their stress.

Daily UX Crash Course — User Psychology: 19 of 31


Your brain is a system. Certain types of information go in, certain types of information come out. But like many systems, if you give it information it wasn’t designed for, you can get less-than-perfect results. Today we will learn:

What is a Cognitive Bias?

(Just starting the Crash Course? Start here.)



Have you ever seen The Matrix? When Neo (Keanu Reeves) meets The Architect, it is revealed that there have been other Neo’s before. They are a “systemic anomaly” that happens from time to time.

Cognitive Biases are sort of like that.

If you ask people certain types of questions, the system of their intuition will reliably choose the wrong answer.

Those “mistakes” are something we can use in UX design. We can let users choose whatever they want, and most of the time they will choose what we want. If you do it right.

Some examples will help…


Anchoring: The first number you say effects the next number in someone’s head. For example, if you ask people to donate to a charity, they might give an average of $2. But if you “suggest” a donation of $10, the average will go up to something more like $5. Nothing changed, but you anchored them to $10, which made $2 feel low.

Next time you want a raise at work, aim high. You won’t get the full amount, but the raise you do get will be higher.


Bandwagon Effect: The more people that believe something, the more likely it is that other people will believe it too. Information doesn’t get more true or more false because lots of people believe it, but your brain doesn’t know that. Your mom always said, “if everybody jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?”

Because all the other moms say that too.

This is why you should usually show how many people have Liked, registered for, or shared something. It’s also why informercials say shit like “a million people can’t be wrong!” Oh yes they can!


Decoy Effect: One of my favourites. Imagine you want to subscribe to a newspaper’s site, and these are the choices:

Web Only: $10

Print Only: $25

Print & Web: $25

Which one is the best deal? After a few seconds to consider it, there is about an 80% chance that you think Print & Web is the best value. Why? Because the Print Only price is the “decoy” — nobody will choose it. It’s only purpose is to make the most expensive price look like a good deal. Even though nobody chooses it, if you remove it, about 60% of people will choose the cheapest option instead.

It’s not rational. It’s biased.

If you are American, you have an election coming up soon. Think carefully.


There are many types of Cognitive Biases. Too many for this course. Over the next few lessons you will get a taste of them.

Tomorrow we will learn more about designing sets of options: The Illusion of Choice.

THE ULTIMATE SHIPPER MEME [2/2] “old married couple” ships
Satine & Obi-Wan (Star Wars: The Clone Wars)

plz , the different in functions in real life :D ?


Say a group of people all go to a theme park together.

Extroverted Sensing (Se) is busy noticing all the details of the park and the people in it. Sights. Sounds. Colors. Oh, cool. That ride flips upside down! I’m going to try that. Do smell those hotdogs? Aren’t they great? I think we ought to go bungee jumping… it’s only $50 for a group of $12! Which way is the Tower of Terror? I’m going to ride down it and watch all you sissies wet your pants when it drops 50 feet in 12 seconds!

Extroverted Intuition (Ne) sees the possibilities of the park. Look at those two people. You can tell they’re not “together” anymore, but just hanging out for the kid’s sake. See their body language? How many rides are in this park? Do you think anyone ever died here? I think they should put a new ride in this space. Call it the Haunted House of Horrors, and have Dead Presidents in it. You know, they could put up an entire haunted SECTION of the park. That would be awesome. Who do I call to pitch that idea? Stay away from the guy in the red hat. He gives me vibes. Ooh, you know, I could write a story about a murder in a theme park! He could die because the Tilt a Whirl malfunctioned. No, no, because the Tower of Terror ride didn’t stop, it crashed the elevator to the bottom floor! His sister did it. No, his uncle! No, the theme park guy, because he’s freakin’ insane.

Extroverted Thinking (Te) is busy organizing others and coming up with “battle plans.” Which direction do we go first? Give me the park map. Okay, where do we want to be by noon? When and where do we meet for lunch? Who is in charge of watching the kid? Which rides do what? When is the bus leaving? What do we have time for? How long are the lines? Okay, everyone who wants to go on these twelve rides, line up to the left! Everyone else to the right! We meet back here at 7pm! No stragglers! Does everyone have their phone on? Good!

Extroverted Feeling (Fe) makes sure everyone feels involved and has their needs met. Does everyone have a buddy? Nobody should be alone! Let’s go to the bathroom first, okay? How do we feel about hamburgers for lunch? Is that okay? Let’s meet over there, shall we? Does everyone know the plan, so no one is left behind? Let’s take a vote on which direction to go first! Fe will go on a ride it doesn’t like so a friend doesn’t have to do it alone.

Introverted Sensing (Si) relates everything around them to past experience. Last time I was here, I threw up on that ride; I’m not going on it again. Oh, hey, that’s the bench I sat on when so-and-so kissed me! Oh, good, the line is shorter this year. Why does this slushie taste different? I think they put less cherry cola in it than before! I feel ripped off. OR… I’ve never been to a theme park before, but that Ferris wheel reminds me of that scene in The Notebook, when Noah won’t take no for an answer, until Allie agrees to go on a date with him…

Introverted Intuition (Ni) knows what will happen before it happens. I’m going to take a step back, because that kid is going to spill his slushie all over – yup, there it goes. I know which ride I want to go on. I’ve thought about it all week. I’m going to have an awesome time on that ride. I’m going there first. Wait, there are other rides? I didn’t even notice! I was busy fixating on getting to the head of the line! Ha, Marsha better not go on that thing, she’ll hurl—yep, there she goes.

Introverted Intuition (Ti) is busy analyzing how the rides work and what makes the most sense. If I go this way, the path winds around past what I want to see, and by the time we’re to meet up, I’ll have been all the way around the park. I won’t have to walk back, or rush from one side of the park to the other. Wait, why are they all walking in the opposite direction? Don’t they know this is the logical way to do it? If you go that way, you’ll engage in needless walking and won’t be able to get through the line in front of the House of Mirrors.

Introverted Feeling (Fi) decides which direction to go based on what is important to them. I’m going on this ride. No, it’s okay, I can go by myself. I don’t need you to come along unless you want to. I’m serious. I’m not afraid to do it alone. I’m not feeling the burgers, either. You all go ahead. I’m going to dash over to that taco stand. Nope, not going on that ride. You can beg all you want, I won’t do it. I’m scared of heights. Not a chance, bud. Drop it.

Hey, sorry this isn't really a request for typing, but more for one on elaboration. A few times, in the INTJ's (Frollo, Thranduil) you've mentioned an Ni-Fi loop - do you mind going into more depth about these loops?


Cognitive Function Loops

“Loops” are when your first and third functions (always both either introverted or extroverted) start playing off one another, without accessing your second and fourth functions. This can either be an asset (if your third function is a productive function) or a liability (if your third function is an emotional / indecisive function). When your functions forget to touch base with one another, they are imbalanced – people or characters “in a loop” are behaving very differently from their usual functions.

IXTJs in a loop become irrational, self-centered, insecure, and highly emotional, thwarting their plans to pursue an irrational emotional impulse (Fi).

IXFJs in a loop rely on internal decision making and personal rationality, forgetting to consult how this impacts others in the process (Ti).

INXPs forget to think up new ideas and solutions and get stuck in old behavior patterns or revisiting old material (Si).

IXSPs are less quick to act or may not act at all, as they get caught up in internal strategizing / envisioning the future (Ni).

ENXJs become highly motivated but also reckless in their behavior, abandoning their usual strategies for quick solutions and behavior oriented toward sensory pleasures (Se).

ESXJs get stuck in a rut of over-ideas and the inability to narrow down those concepts to one solution (Ne).

EXTPs develop visible emotions and insecurities about how others feel about them and the impersonal impact of their actions (Fe).

EXFPs launch into “take charge” mode by turning off their emotions and relying on factual information and quick problem solving (Te).

Since people in a loop aren’t consulting functions of the opposing stack, they are thrown off balance and lack their usual behavior patterns. To get out of a loop, you must activate your missing second function.





What if everything was just a bad dream and you wake up to a perfect life

maybe that’s what death is

"He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." -Revelations 21:4 



Victorian Wars - Greg Peltz

Avicii - Hey Brother
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Avicii - Hey Brother

Hey brother! There’s an endless road to rediscover
Hey sister! Know the water’s sweet but blood is thicker
Ooooh! If the sky comes falling down, for you
There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do

Hey brother! Do you still believe in one another?
Hey sister! Do you still believe in love? I wonder
Ooooh! If the sky comes falling down, for you
There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do

What if I’m far from home? Oh brother I will hear you call
What if I lose it all? Oh sister I will help you out
Ooooh! If the sky comes falling down, for you
There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do

Hey brother! There’s an endless road to rediscover
Hey sister! Do you still believe in love? I wonder
Ooooh! If the sky comes falling down, for you
There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do

What if I’m far from home? Oh brother I will hear you call
What if I lose it all? Oh sister I will help you out
Ooooh! If the sky comes falling down, for you
There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do